The reason for wearing a chastity belt is fairly simple; it helps you remain celibate. But that isn’t what I am interested in. I want to know why somebody would wear a chastity belt. What motivates them to wear it. And do the psychological effects of wearing one differ depending on your reasoning? From what I’ve been able to gather, there are three reasons why people would choose to wear a chastity belt. Firstly, they desire to remain celibate. Secondly, they are forced to as a form of atonement. And thirdly, they wish to keep themselves from committing adultery. Savage, Dan (2 June 2017). "Savage Love Letter of the Day: He's Perfect, But a Premie". The Stranger. Archived from the original on 30 August 2018 . Retrieved 31 August 2018. I asked my husband to make coffee for us. When he brought in the coffee, he nearly jumped out of the room. She took control right away and asked him to sit down and join us. She asked him questions about the cage and his intentions. She made it clear that he was not to interfere in her marriage in any way. There would be no sexual activity of any kind between them except related to the cage. She also made it clear that her husband did not approve and that my husband would have to respect his feelings and live with the outcome. My submissive partner and I got into chastity purely out of interest in the fetish. We spotted the use of cages in some adult videos we watched together and wanted to see what impact the use of one could have on our relationship.

Fortunately, as you learn about ‘edging’ your partner, and what amount of tease and denial he can take, you will still be able to give him a ‘ruined orgasm’. I’ve also noticed that chaste men become more driven and therefore their level of productivity increases exponentially. If you remove distractions they focus on other things, which I find very beneficial personally. He wants to please me and will do any number of tasks that he’s set to gain a reward. As noted in the first part of this post, a keyholder can be anyone as long as that person consents to fill the role. Most commonly for men in relationships, it is the caged male’s wife or intimate partner. A guy not in a relationship doesn’t have this built-in option. That can make finding a keyholder at least somewhat more challenging. But it is not impossible. Chastity For Lust And The Fun Of It AllYou need to be careful by being realistic with your demands. Know who you’re dealing with on a personal level otherwise resentment can set in, which you need to avoid. If you set unrealistic targets that you know can be achieved he can get dejected, bitter and angry if you’re not watchful. As ever, the language used changes from person to person, but as you can probably guess, this is about getting someone closer and closer, before denying and cutting off their orgasm. Chastity is a lot easier if you have a chastity device. It physically restrains you and doesn’t allow you to get any sexual release (until the keyholder grants it). No matter how devoted people are to the chastity lifestyle, slipping is normal and expected. However, many see it as a failure. To avoid that, you can use a chastity device.

Reagene, Dominic Paul (2014). BDSM & Fetish Dictionary of Kink, 2nd Edition. New York: Muze Management Publishing. p.82. ISBN 978-1-5070-3399-9. Yeah, go figure! Not long after that though, life started to imitate art instead of the other way around, and the first real chastity devices were made. Make sure you've got your keys!'' he says, cheerfully. ''Have a great night. Send my love to … whichever bunch of arch, chain-smoking homosexuals you're on loan to tonight.'' Similarly to our previous tip, switching sides is important because it gives you the necessary experience. If you have no idea how the other side feels, you’ll never be able to relate to or understand their desires, wants, and ultimate kinks. Only when you fully understand your partner can you give them what they need from you and vice versa.

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A strap-on dildo may be worn by a male to still allow penetrative vaginal sex to the female while denying the male partner the ability to orgasm, and the male then may also wear a chastity device. [5] This is distinct from pegging, as the strap-on in this case replaces the penis of the male. This can be seen as a form of total denial if the strap-on replaces the penis throughout the whole duration of the play, or as a form of teasing if the strap-on is only used during foreplay. In the last case, the strap-on can be used to prolong penetrative sex and thus sexually satisfy the female partner in case the male suffers from premature ejaculation. [6] [7] [8] As a form of control [ edit ]

The bottom line is men love to wear a chastity cage, and any man who is wearing one is doing so only because he wants to. The stories you read about men being ‘forced’ to wear then are just that – stories. So in a cautious “fake it until you make it” manner, try out the chastity lifestyle and see what works for you and what doesn’t. Learn from your own experience. That’s the best way to figure out if you’re ready for a lifestyle change or not. Switch Sides at Least Once Reagene, Dominic Paul (2014). BDSM & Fetish Dictionary of Kink, 2nd Edition. New York: Muze Management Publishing. p.46. ISBN 978-1-5070-3399-9.

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In both cases, you just need to do a good job of explaining to them your interest in chastity and what you want them to do. And make sure you tell them that if they agree to be your keyholder, they are allowed to exercise their independent judgment about when they give you releases. In the modern-day, infidelity usually ends up with a divorce. But occasionally it doesn’t. Sometimes, the victim of the infidelity will find it in their heart to forgive their cheating partner, with one condition. They have to be punished. And sometimes, wearing a chastity belt is part of that punishment. In this case, the psychological impact of wearing a chastity belt can be extremely potent. The wearer cannot run from the reminder of their betrayal, as it encases the anatomy of their infidelity. It cannot be taken off unless with a key, usually held by the cheater's spouse. The shame must be unbearable, especially because you can never ignore a steel cage around your privates. Every time you move, you feel its weight shift with yours, constantly guilt-tripping you for the things that you’ve done. The truth is, there are something like 3.5 billion females on the planet. Unless a guy is a castaway on some deserted island, it’s hard to make the case he has no one to ask to be his keyholder. But, if you’re too shy to ask a female you know, or too afraid she will think you’re a freak for the asking, then you have other options. The Professionals Professional Dommes are similar to professional dominatrices regarding the kind of services they offer. They, too, can be on the expensive side, but not usually as expensive as a professional dominatrix. Again, in larger cities, you may find them locally. Also, there are many of them online. Some charge per hour for sessions like their dominatrix sisters, but some offer basic enforced chastity keyholding services at a standard weekly rate. I’ve used one such online service, which was very reasonable in price. Chastity belts have a great deal of myth surrounding them. So much, in fact, that it becomes hard to differentiate between the fact and the fiction of the matter. For one, their early history remains clouded and doubtful. While a reference to them appears in 14th-century text, scholars and experts have yet to find any that can be dated to that time period. It appears that the idea of chastity belts was conceived of as a joke, poking fun at the overtly purity fixated society of the time.