A Beginner's Guide to Swinging (The Swing Scene Presents Book 2)

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It can feel daunting to go to a party where any type of sexual activity is encouraged. To ensure that you have a good time, below are three hot tip recommendations, straight from Venus Cuffs herself. I haven’t told my family or close friends about this aspect of our relationship because I’m afraid they will think I am forced into it. I’m not ashamed of our actions. But I believe many people won’t understand our motivations.

Being part of a couple makes it easier to discover the swing lifestyle. However, don’t feel as though you can enjoy swinging if you’re single, although this is no different from being single and venturing out for one-night stands. It’s been discovered that single women find it easier to get involved with couples. However, single men can find it increasingly difficult to be accepted or embraced by the swinging community. The Swingers Life - Getting into It However, it’s common for couples to implement rules of their own. Some couples might agree on kissing rules for intimate reasons while others might only agree to oral sex; therefore, speaking with each other is absolutely vital. Kenzie, who has been in the lifestyle for about 13 years, laughingly referenced yelling at her husband out of jealousy at times. But that doesn’t mean non-monogamy doesn’t work just like yelling about the dishes doesn’t mean a marriage is in shambles. You talk through it. When done properly, soft swinging can be a great way for couples to keep sex exciting and build intimacy and connection,’ explains Isabelle.Etiquette is a large part of the swing lifestyle. This is because certain behaviors and rules are in place and should be followed. The aim is for everyone to enjoy the experience and to do it safely. Therefore, it can help to understand the specific rules of any events you attend or parties as this will ensure you don’t upset other couples. Finally, once you commit to swinging, you’re not a swinger for life. You can try it for a few months or a few years; there are no hard or fast rules to how long swinging has to last. Adult Swingers Lifestyle - Learning More About It Other problems can arise if boundaries are crossed, or partners fail to be honest about how they feel about soft swinging.’

Safe sex is crucial, and using condoms and other safe sex options can really make a difference. Furthermore, regular testing is vital for you and others, so it makes sense to arrange regular tests too. Think About Meeting New People Her advice to those considering the lifestyle:“For couples who are considering it, we suggest that you better have a really good relationship starting out because it doesn’t fix broken relationships, it only breaks them up faster. Also, you need to have conversations with your spouse or partner before you go into it. Know your rules and limits before you get into a situation because you can’t really get upset with your partner if you didn’t talk about.” Jody was introduced to swinging five years ago and is currently single. She loves her work as a sex coach and says if it weren’t for swinging, she wouldn’t be where she is now. To make swinging a success, your relationship has to be solid and honest. It’ll involve a level of respect and understanding between both because exploring difficult areas such as jealousy will prove crucial. It was nothing like that at all there are people from all walks of life, it’s like any other bar except there are playrooms. You drink, chat to different people and dance."

We stripped off our costumes, and he went down on me before taking me from behind. Three couples swapped in the space adjacent to us, their sex sounds and moans giving us a thrill that boosted both our orgasms. Tuesday His confidence and muscular body were all the convincing I needed to accept his offer, and I did not regret it when I was moaning in ecstasy in his room a few hours later. Taylor Frankie Paul, a 28-year-old mum-of-two with 3.5 million TikTok followers,caused controversy after sleeping with a member of the community without her husband’s knowledge. We have guidelines for example, we won't take one for the team. If one of us isn't interested we both aren't interested. Even as experienced swingers, we were grateful to have spent the first few days becoming grounded with just each other, ensuring our communication and bond were solid: this always makes sex with others a more seamless experience.

If you do end up going to bed together, make sure you’ve all discussed green and red lists. What do people definitely want to experience? What is off-limits for Carol? You’re now dealing with three or four (or more!) people’s preferences. There are many more opportunities for miscommunication. It can feel really awkward to be the person to bring it up, but if you keep an excited smile on your face while you do it, you come off as safe and responsible and fun. Remember: Discussing boundaries is just discussing how everyone can have a really hot time. That’s awesome! How to have sex with other people Consensual sexual activities between adults do not harm the people taking part in them, nor will they impact anyone else who isn’t involved. Giving and receiving pleasure is a beautiful feeling. But, of course, to each their own. As a couple, you’re a team, so you should behave like a team when you start your journey into the swing lifestyle. Therefore, to have the best experience when entering the swing lifestyle you should have a mini debrief after every event or experience. This will enable you to discuss what worked, what didn’t work, and whether any further rules need to be added. This discussion provides an open platform that can help your next experience become even better than the last one. Don’t Underestimate CommunicationYou may have to wade through a lot of people, but there are definitely people on Tinder who are looking for swinging and other “no-holds-barred” type action. With the balcony door open, I watched the landscape cruise by while he used his mouth to bring me to orgasm. I switched positions on the couch, so he was behind me, making sure he got to take in the pleasurable view while experiencing his own pleasure. Breaking this rule without prior agreement from your partner is a breach of trust,’ says sex expert Isabelle from Bedbible. ‘Crossing your partner’s boundaries in this way and being dishonest by doing it without their consent damages the foundation of trust needed in a relationship.’ Can ‘soft swinging’ have benefits in a relationship? People have no idea how much time and effort you’re going to put in looking for dates," reveals Brenna. There’s a "stereotype that swingers will just sleep with anybody," adds Kenzie. "Swingers are much more selective now [because of technology.]" It’s become much easier since our parents did it. But what do you put on a swinger dating profile?

You can explore the topic more by discussing your soft-swinging fantasies or role-playing them at home to see what emotions come up.’ There are many different books that you can discover too and that enables you to spend time reading about it together as a couple. The swing lifestyle won’t work for all couples because, for some, it can leave them feeling slightly strange and weird. Some people feel as though the experience is exciting and fun or could prove to be the answer to your relationship problems. All of this could result in further problems and disappointment, and that is the real difference here. However, if you’re determined to give swinging a try, then learning more about what it involves can make a significant difference to your experience and expectations. How to Start Swinging - Advice Made for You The couple had their first swinging experience in a club in Sydney, Australia, and were initially apprehensive. They didn’t have any sexual encounters but acted as voyeurs - watching others without getting involved.

There are different foundational factors that can lead to problems, including your reasons for trying it, how much trust there is, how honest you are with each other, and how well you communicate,’ Isabelle explains. How it impacted her relationship:“[Swinging] honestly had no effect on our relationship, which ended for other reasons. Swinging changed me personally for the better. I have sexual confidence that I didn’t have before. I exclusively date swingers now because I meet a much better class of men. They really honor and respect women.” A discerning characteristic no matter who you ask seems to be romantic exclusivity. Because of this "a lot of people in the swinger community can be judgmental [of polyamory,]" one polyamorist named Brian shared on an episode of my show, The Manwhore Podcast. "A lot of them just can’t imagine having feelings outside of their primary relationship." This put me in a great mood as we returned to the ship, which must have turned on some kind of sex magnet. Normalcy is a product of our culture and, therefore, can change drastically depending on where you are.